July 25, 2012

Bead Soup Challenge? No, Life is a challenge

I look back at my last post July 12th titled Thankful Thursday - it seemed relevant at the time but little did I know by the end of that day I would have very little to be thankful for.  We got the call about 5:00 pm that my daughter's boyfriend had been killed in a plane crash.  It literally sucked the air out of my lungs.  I remember walking outside and gasping for air.  I walked in circles with my husband outside the house waiting for my daughter to arrive home.  She got the news as she drove and I don't know how she made it home.  

That was the day that changed her life and we now try to help her pick up the pieces without the amazing man who was the love of her life.  They had been dating for 16 mos.  He was 36 years old and leaves a 6 year old son who is now an orphan.  His wife died 2-1/2 years ago.  Charlie was a premie - 1 lb. 10 oz and  survived.  He is a fighter and he will continue to fight.  My daughter is strong and she will also survive but right now her heart is breaking in two.  It is the hardest thing in the world to look on as everything your child wanted is gone in seconds.  How do you answer her questions?  How is that fair?  Why did it happen to such a wonderful young man?  There are no answers.   
This picture was taken on Easter weekend  in Edmonton with her three kids. We had so much fun together staying in a hotel.  Charlie is the one with the hat.  He still talks about that weekend.   

Mark was intelligent, kind, caring, made you feel good, made you laugh, always had a big smile, always gave  a big hug, never could do enough to help, was a calming influence, always thought of others before himself, no-one had a bad thing to say about him, had lots of friends and on and on and on.   No doubt about it he has left a big hole in our hearts but  he definitely showed me how to be a better person.   

In three days I will be revealing my creations for the BSBP and yes, it has been a challenge.  Life threw an extra challenge at me this month.  There are many supportive friends that have contacted me and I thank you for that.  My Bead Soup Blog Party partner sent me a lovely sympathy card which I received in the mail today - Thank you Terry  it means so much. 

I look forward to the big reveal day on July 28th.  See you all there!


Beatnheart said...

Such a sad turn of events...I am so sorry for your loss and especially for your daughter.

Thank you so much for your visit. I love your bracelets...I’ve been hearing about bead soups but don’t really know what it is...Is it like an exchange? Looks like you got some spectacular things.

xx cynthia

Therese's Treasures said...

My heart and prayers go out to you and your family in this time of sorrow. You asked how you can answer your Daughter's questions of why. The only way you can is by continuing to give her you love and support and just being her rock. Life will get better. I know this from personal experience. I lost the man I was to marry in a car crash three days before our wedding back in 1978. Mark will always be with you all in your hearts.

I will be back on the 28th to see what you have created with your soup.


A Polymer Penchant said...

Tragic. Thank you for sharing the picture of this beautiful family I'm so sorry for you all that this moment wasn't much much longer. Healing thoughts for you all, I know Charlie is built with a special kind of strength and determination... I wish I had the words for what comes next. Keep taking great care of each other

Unknown said...

Thank you for your kind and caring comments. It helps me to heal so I can be strong for my daughter and her three children.

Deborah Lambson said...

Life has a way of bringing us up short sometimes does it not? It's the challenges that strengthen muscles but of course we all know that..it does not make it any easier when it's our turn.
My deepest sympathies to your family, your daughter and that sweet little boy.

Deborah Lambson

Monique (A Half-Baked Notion) said...

Dear Katherine, I am so saddened to hear of your family's loss. Every time one of my loved ones travels, I find myself worrying for their safety.. and oh, the joy, when they arrive safely at their destination. To suffer a loss like yours is devastating. Our lives are a fragile thread that can be cut in the blink of an eye. The only defence is to try to live each day to the fullest and give of ourselves in every moment. It sounds like Mark was one of those exceptional individuals who had discovered how to accomplish that.

Anonymous said...

I wish the best for your daughter and her lovely children and for Charlie. You are strong, and your daughter is blessed to have you at this time. This will be a bittersweet bead soup reveal for me, but meeting you and having you for a partner has enriched my life.


Jenni said...

Katherine, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of this young man and the pain it brings especially to your daughter and of course his little son. He sounded very special. It's wonderful that you still have this young boy in your lives and can help him and thus yourselves through this sad time. Regards,